Wednesday, May 9, 2018

WANTS VS NEEDS

I think we all have dreams of what we would like to do and have. All kinds of  wants and wishes and day dreams. My list is long, and I am day dreamer of epic proportions.
I dream of (in no particular order):

New windows
Paying off my sons student loans
Throwing an epic destination wedding for my daughter
Hauling my horse in my very own trailer behind my very own truck
New gutters
etc etc

but you know what? All of those are "wants," and not "needs" and for that I count myself very lucky. After almost 20 years providing housing and rental assistance for low income tenants, I know very well what the difference between the two are. And so I wrote a little mantra to remind myself when I need to buck up and get a grip.


I DO NOT HAVE ALL THAT I WANT,
BUT I HAVE SO MUCH MORE THAN I NEED.
THAT DOES NOT MAKE ME STOP THE WANT,
BUT IT DOES REMIND ME OF MY GREED.


And when that is not enough I enjoy watching Ellen give away money and cars etc, to some very cool people. Here is an example:






The looks on their faces, and the knowledge that their lives had a real lift, makes me so happy. Often these are people with a real need, whose lives will be substantially better for that car or that money. So if you are feeling a little down over wants not coming true, do what I do, and watch Ellen give something away. Just google "Ellen gives" and you will see loads of examles.



And you know what else?  "Be kind to one another!" 

Wednesday, March 21, 2018

A $3 Fix?

I have not posted in a while, but wanted to tell everyone about something that made a huge difference in my mare. Pippi has been dealing with cycle pain (back pain, moodyness, spooky, not cycling right) for the last year or so. Had her on Regumate for a few weeks last fall, and may have to go that route again. Tried lots of things....


But in my quest to find anything that could help her, I read about the Equilume lights and the extensive research they did. Mares stop cycling due to lack of sunlight in winter months, and breeders are using these lights to kick start their cycles and control when it happens. So that got me thinking about Pippi...... So I went to my local hardare store, and purchased a $3 full spectrum LED light bulb. My BO installed a timer and my mare is now bathed in white light 12 hours per day if in her stall. (She is obvi turned out too, but with an old tendon injury and a super wet winter/spring that is not as much as we would like some days). So we flipped on the light and crossed fingers. I knew that one sign, beyond a mood change, that it was working, was if she started shedding. All the other horses were, but not her, and the chemical changes in her brain due to more light should trigger that response (if she was high melatonin due to low light that is). In esssence the light should trigger seratonin, which would burn off the sleepy chemical melatonin, which would be causing a foggy brain and moodiness, ie spooky bitchy mare. I am simplifying a bit here. 

Two days later, I walked down the aisle and Pippi rumbled and attempted to go past BO who was cleaning her stall to get to me. Her eyes were soft, and she was just a new active and energized horse. I took her blanket off and she was starting to shed out! I lunged her without any issues. Walked by the flapping tarp and she was fine, where for weeks she has been a loonytoon.
I did not discuss this with a vet before trying, because its a light bulb. Being from the north myself, I know that some people are really bothered by the lack of sun. Turns out my mare is one of them. I am not saying this was her only issue with her cycle, but it helped and I just wanted to share in case anyone else has similar issues going on and access to $3 

Tuesday, January 23, 2018

Fave Christmas Gift

I got this shirt as a gift this past Christmas, and I love it. Perfect for riding or skiing/hiking. Great fit. Long sleeves and is keeping its shate and color great afte washings.

So here is a link:

Tuesday, October 24, 2017

Oats and Vitamins at a better price.


As you may know I changed Pippis diet to all oats about a year ago, which I am very happy with. She eats two scoops per day of oats, which naturally has around 12% protein. Just ask those Quaker Oats people how great oats are! Pippi is doing great on this, and keeping her weight just fine. And it's kinder on the wallet!


My personal feelings are that if we know that eating unprocessed clean foods is best for us, then why are we feeding processed feeds to our horses? I was feeding the local feed store oats, but they were starting to be rather dusty, so I switched to Tractor Supply Oats.TSC price matches, so I am getting my 50lbs bags for the feed store price of $9.70. With this unprocessed feed I can see what I am feeding, if it looks clean (not dusty). Unlike pelleted feeds, where they can change the ingredients or amounts without you have any idea. Better read those labels.

With the oats, I feed a multi-vitamin supplement and she has lose minerals/salt. I used to buy it at TSC for $19.99 (Farnam) per month. But in my constant goal to save money I found a great alternative in Vitaflex. I now get a 160 day supply for $57.14 shipped to my house in two days for free since I have Prime Shipping.



It has the antioxidants I used to pay $30+ a month for, Magnesium, Lysine and so much more. Click link to see ingredients. I used to feed Magnesium alone and now I don't have to.

I am very happy to save money and time, and in essence getting more. So I thought I'd share...

Also I have stopped giving Pippi any joint supplement as I saw no difference in her at all. Still searching for a solution to her back issues and cycle pain. Seeing a new Vet on Friday - fingers crossed!

Wednesday, July 5, 2017

Is your horse "happy" to work? is it?

I just want to say right up front, I DON'T HAVE THE ANSWER to this question that I have been pondering since about April 2013. I guess the closest I have come to an answer is: It depends.....

 Let me give you some background:

I was riding in a clinic, the 2nd clinic of my, at that time, short riding life. The trainer was someone I respected, and even admired, and I was excited to be a "real" rider. I was new to riding, and was new to Pippi, but Pippi was not new to being ridden. And being a mare, she held all the cards. As we walked and eventually trotted around the indoor arena, Pippi kept stopping at the gate to the aisle. I urged her on, and after a circle, she stopped at the gate again. Tried walking me out the arena, clearly saying "we are done here." The trainer urged me on saying "Don't let her get away with that. You work 8 hours per day, she can give you 45 minutes."

Now in essence that makes sense right? Pippi is a working animal, I am a working animal, we have jobs to do. In some ways I am her employer. I have work for her to do, and in return I pay her in housing, feed, excellent health care and treat her well. Among other perks such as massage.... I don't ever get massages at my job!! EVER!! You know what, let's not go down this road of how she is treated better than I am..... (I have had one manicure this year! ahem.....)



We all want our horses to be "happy" in their work, right? But are they always going to be "happy?" I mean doesn't work just kind of suck, even on a good day? Wouldn't most horses, on most days, chose a breezy field with fresh green grass over being ridden? Okay, please spare me the "my horse loves to work" comments ok?  Not minding it, and loving it are two very different things! I'm sure you have all heard the comments "I don't even have to tie up my horse to tack him up, he just stands still and loves to work." Seriously? Is he loving it, or has he been trained to do so? That's like saying "my dog loves to "SIT!" when I tell him to." Or "my child just loves to clean her room." All I am saying is that the shear fact that they comply, without a fuss, is not proof of "loving to work." Using that logic I must love doing the dishes, or scrubbing toilets! But I digress (I always wanted to use that line! yay)

We all want our horses to be "happy" in their work right? But are they always going to be "happy?" To progress, get better, learn new skills, get fit, improve communication, well, that stuff is physically and mentally tiring, so how do you do that and make sure your horse is "happy?" Yep, you can change the way you train and not be too repetitive. You can go for a trail ride, you can cross train, etc...... but in the end you are taking up your horses time, expending energies both mental and physical, with pursuits the horse didn't really pick to do.

Let me insert here that I am not talking about a horse that is in pain and is therefore showing signs of being "unhappy" (ie tail swishing, balking, general non compliance, rushing, refusing leads, bucking, etc.) I am talking about a horse that is being ridden and is not enjoying it because they are being encouraged to work harder, and encouraged to learn new skills. There is a balance here that we must all strive for, and I think anyone who has ridden for awhile has failed at this. Failed at reading the signs; pain versus general resentful grumpiness. Is your mare swishing her tail because she is getting physically tired, or is she in pain? To get fit, we must push to the point of tired, and the signs of that sure look a lot like "unhappiness." Is your gelding resentfully throwing in a buck after a lead change, because he is sick of it, or actually sick?

I have been using quotation signs around the word "happy" (see I did it again) to illustrate the uselessness of that word when talking about a horse at work. We have all heard the statement "if you love your job, you will not a work a day in your life." Yeah right!!?!! (sarcasm - gotta love it) My job is quite fulfilling, but sometimes I don't like it at all. It pays my bills, and gives me security but if staying at home with the pay was an option, well, I'd take it! In a heartbeat. So I do the job, and I guess if I was a horse, that would mean I'm "happy" right? Cause I'm doing it with minimal fuss.

Clearly I am talking in circles here> The bottom line is as equestrians we have a responsibility to make sure our equines are as "happy" as they can be in their jobs. We need to be soft and giving riders who perfect our skills to be clear and precise and take care of our horses needs, both mentally and physically. We need to keep our egos in check, and realize that our goals may or may not happen, and we need to be good partners to our horses to ensure everyone has a good time working. But it is work. And work is hard, and can get challenging, especially for someone who sees no real value in it.....

Like I said, I don't have the answers, I just keep pondering and mulling and looking at my mare and trying to find a balance. It's really just a "need" versus "want" issue at its core. I have learned that I shouldn't be surprised that a horse seems "happier" when not being asked to expend much energy or effort. I mean I am happier on vacation too. Doesn't mean work is bad for me though.... I am "happier" eating chocolate than I am walking up the hill for exercise in my neighborhood. Imagine how "Unhappy" I would be if walking that hill wasn't my idea in the first place, and all my friends were at my house watching Netflix and eating junk food. I have also learned not to judge a rider with an "unhappy" horse, any more than a judge a mom with a kid crying when they leave the pool. Maybe that kid just fell and hurt itself, or maybe it just really wants to swim more, or maybe that mom is truly abusive and is pinching that kid under that towel. Or maybe the kid has a fever!

Not sure I expressed any of what I meant to say here. Just know your horse, and know that sometimes they are in pain, and sometimes they are just not "not feeling it today." You will know the difference, or not..... I just think the idea that only horses in pain, or being used/trained/ridden wrong, would be a grouch to ride. That's too simplistic to me, as though horses do not have preferences, and days where they are more willing than other days. I mean...... you have met a mare right?






Sunday, February 12, 2017

DIY - Horse Show Ribbon Belt



I decided to use some of my Horse Ribbons that were just gathering dust to make myself a "good luck belt" for riding. I think it turned out well. I actually made it last year, and it has held up better than I dreamed. Here are some info about the steps:

1. Select ribbons and segments of the ribbon you like.

2. Measure the width of the belt, or is that the breadth? What a mean is, not the length around the waist of the belt, but how wide is it? Double that and make yourself a template (make a tiny bit smaller than double the width) to use when cutting segment of the ribbons.

3. Lay your template on the ribbon, making sure you place the part of the ribbon in the middle of the template. Cut and put aside. Keep doing that until you have enough ribbons cut to cover the belt as much as you want.

4. Go to your iron, and turn it on to satin. Make another template the exact width of your belt, or use the belt, and press the sides of the ribbons to make little rectangles.
Make sure you iron it so the side you wants out is out. :)


5. After ironing them all into desired shape, place them onto belt with pins, pick a cute stitch on your machine and stitch them all on.
My daughter modeling the belt on regular jeans

6. I decided it would be smart to secure the gaps between each ribbon, and decided to hand stitch that with a bead to add some subtle bling. You could just stitch that on your machine too....



Here is a video showing what the belt looks like, and with some short hints on how to make it.

Please comment with any questions. 



Thursday, November 17, 2016

TBT - I can't afford it all!



I wrote this a few years ago, some things have changed, some have not,......

"I can’t afford it.” “I don’t have the money.” How come those sentences are so hard to say? Sometimes I think people have a harder time with that than saying “sorry” in a heartfelt apology. We lie, we distract, we dissemble, we do just about anything not to have to say that we just cannot afford to go to the show (the fees can be outrageous), buy a new saddle or get a massage for our horses.
Well, I am coming out of the closet on this on; I cannot afford it all. I have a job with decent wages, but I have to make choices all the time. I have one used saddle that is way too small, the knee blocks are useless for me, and it is what it is for right now. My girth is an old English girth because my billets are too short for a dressage girth, which doesn’t matter because I don’t own a dressage girth. I have two bridles, only one of them is a Dressage bridle even though that is my discipline. The Dressage bridle is my show bridle, but I don’t really show because I can’t afford a truck to take me to shows. In my yard sits the used trailer that was supposed to be step one in hauling myself, but step two (the truck) is just not on the horizon. Pippi’s blanket was bought used, and has, in its second season with me, several tears in the cover. She does not get supplements, a massage (other than by me), regular chiropractic care, or aromatherapy treatments. (Okay, that was snarky)

It’s hard this balancing act that we do. And it’s really hard to see others that seemingly do have it all. “How do they do it?” we ask ourselves and quietly with our best and most trusted friend. “She must get her Visa bill delivered in a box!” You know you have said worse things!
Sure, that feeling of envy is useless and negative, but so very human.  Life isn’t fair, and no matter how many times we stamp our feet like little three year olds, it’s not about to change any time soon. I admit I get jealous, envious, and I wish so much to win the lottery (I bet buying a ticket would help).

There is a feeling, for me at least, that as equestrians we are expected to be willing to make every sacrifice available for the betterment of our horses and our sport. The horse comes first, and the pressure to get the latest tack innovation and best care can get intense. “If I had to live in a tent to keep my horse, I totally would!” Really? Well, I can’t do that! What I wouldn’t do for a saddle that fit and a Toyota Tundra! I know that I am just a few lost paychecks from having to make very hard decisions about the future of Pippi, and even scarier I am not ready for a medical emergency. Sure, we are supposed to have funds put away for that sort of thing, but realistically how many of us are financially prepared?

I had this, but never got to use it...... sold!

Pippi is my dessert in life, but I have to have real food and so does my family. And even if you are ever so willing to make a lot of sacrifices, as I am, how do you ask your partner and family to do the same? I realize that my love for Pippi is not shared by my husband. He sees it as my passion, and would never dream of asking me to make sacrifices for his work outs (one of his passions). Time is one thing, but serious changes in our lives so that I can keep a horse is asking a lot from the poor fella. As I stated in an earlier blog, a horse can cause divorce. Relationships can be difficult when different sets of priorities enter the picture. The pressures we put on ourselves, the shame/ jealousy/envy (of which we ourselves should take responsibility) we may feel at times, are understandable as we make choices based on our funds. Few of us are in position to not have to think “money” when we think ”horses.”  We work hard, we don’t have the time we would like to spend with our horses, the horses don’t always get everything we would like them to have, and we make the best of it. The next time you can’t go to the show, replace broken tack or put off vaccinations because you don’t have the funds for it, please know your boat is filled with equestrians doing the same. When I feel a little “jelly belly” it is not that I don’t want that other rider to have what they have, I just long for a day when I can have the same without feeling very stressed about it financially. 

I’m jealous, but I own it.